Will You Light a Candle or Keep Cursing the Darkness?

Just because you can’t do much doesn’t mean you should do nothing.

Adelina Vasile
3 min readNov 13, 2021
Photo by D A V I D S O N L U N A on Unsplash

“It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness,” says an old Chinese proverb.

It’s a proverb I like to keep close to my heart because it applies to just about anything in life.

Complaining? Blaming others? That’s easy! Anyone can do it.

Owning a situation? Taking responsibility for what we can do and actually do it? That’s a lot harder.

Often, we make it harder. We’re finding reasons not to take action. The excuse? Not good enough. Not the right time.

No wonder we remain stuck in the limitations we create for ourselves.

You won’t start that side hustle. Or won’t ask your boss for a raise. You won’t apply for a new job. You won’t date that guy or gal. You won’t have kids just yet. You won’t try a sport. You won’t plan that travel. You won’t.

Searching for the right time is pretty much like cursing the darkness rather than lighting up a candle, no matter how small.

Everything we want but we won’t is in the darkness.

The moment you take the first step, you start seeing a little bit of light around you. That…



Adelina Vasile

Mother, educator, journalist, copywriter. I write about the things I need to learn myself.