What Giving Up Control Will Teach You About Your Child

Don’t you want to see them independent and capable?

Adelina Vasile
6 min readSep 29, 2022


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Relatives providing child care is the ideal solution for exhausted parents. But we all want our families to care for our children on our terms.

Would you let grandma or auntie look after your little one even if you know they’ll let them binge-watch cartoons or overdose on candies?

Are you feeling torn between the need of being a few hours away from your kid and giving up on your control as a parent?

Does the thought of letting your child with someone you know will bend your rules make you furious?

If you answered yes to all these questions, here’s why you should still consider letting those family members step in.

You Can’t and Shouldn’t Protect Your Child Forever From Everyone

Overprotection will make your child miserable.

So, when you find yourself trying to avoid an experience because you think you need to protect your child from something, reflect on that something a little longer.

Junk food?

That’s terrible, but it’s also part of life. They’ll bump into it pretty much anywhere.

Wouldn’t you rather have them get to know it and talk about it instead of having them consider it the forbidden fruit?

Wouldn’t it be nice to eat healthily at home and explore what else is outside, from time to time?

Aggressive cartoons or games?

They’re terrible, but they’re also part of life.

Plus, reading stories or watching cartoons with more powerful conflicts are, for children, powerful real-life simulations.

Aggressive play, to some extent, and under adult supervision, is pretend violence — a simulator of real-life violence that children need to experience before they go out into the world and end up facing it out of the blue.



Adelina Vasile

Mother, educator, journalist, copywriter. I write about the things I need to learn myself. Check my Substack here >> https://undressingcopy.substack.com/