Watch Your Body, Not Just Your Tone When You Talk to Children
It makes a big difference.
Possibly unpopular advice: don’t sit across from your child when you want to give them a lesson — stay next to them, shoulder to shoulder.
Are you scoffing, rolling your eyes already? Think about the message you’re sending.
You turn yourself into a physical barrier when you’re across from them. You’re standing against them, perpendicular to them, in an aggressive position that can instinctively generate negative emotions.
When you’re next to them, you turn yourself into a continuation of them. You’re standing in line with them, you’re on the same team, in a collaboratory position that can instinctively generate positive, supportive emotions.
One more thing to worry about?
Perhaps, but it’s one of those things that make a difference. And once you turn it into a habit, you will no longer need to worry about it at all.
Parents are often concerned with what to say to their children, but we forget that the actual words are the smallest part of communication.
Between 70 to 93% of communication is nonverbal. So, why do we pay so little attention to our body language when we engage with children?
