This is a serious problem you pointed, mothers not daring to choose work over staying home with their children because they fear the judgment. Better to spend less time with your child while being cheerful and connected with them than a whole day while feeling and acting like a ticking bomb.

Then again, guilt and fear of judgment won't go away no matter what we choose. So, in the end, we all own to ourselves and our families to decide what makes us happy and go with it. Because our children do need parents who are happy and don't make them feel like a burdain.