So, a child needs both a female and a male figure to grow up into a balanced adult when the time comes. And it makes sense to assume that you can't help someone to turn into something that you have never been and you cannot identify yourself with. You've made quite a lot of points that make sense, but I'm not sure I noticed the part where you made it clear that having a male figure to grow up with isn't necessarily enough to turn a boy into a man? It's not just about growing up with a man in the house, but rather about growing up with a man who is willing to look at you, see you for what you are, and be able to guide you the way you need. Right?