Nobody Tells You This About Becoming A Parent

And we should be talking more about it.

Adelina Vasile


Photo by Suzanne D. Williams on Unsplash

People seem to excel at giving parenting advice to those who solicit it the least. The moment you dare tell the world that you’re expecting, you can expect to be flooded with unsolicited advice. And the things they tell you…

Oh, your whole world will change.

Oh, I hope you’ve been saving for this.

Oh, you better get some sleep while you still can.

Oh, enjoy the silence and the alone time while you have it.

Oh, you think you’re not happy with your body now? Wait until you deliver that baby.

Your life will change. Your home will change. Your world will change.

Haven’t they forgotten anything?

Did anyone warn you how much you will change?

I wonder why they leave out the best part

You growing through changes is the best part of bringing a new life into this world. But nobody seems to talk about it enough.

Your body goes through the most miraculous changes that the mind can comprehend.

Your mind keeps up with it. You may not feel like that. Not yet. But, as they say, “you just wait until”

You just wait until you find yourself late at night, scrolling through the thousands of pictures on your mobile phone.

Can you believe how far you’ve come? How much confidence you’re feeling now? Can you imagine it was you who’s been through all those endless, sleepless, foggy braided days and nights? Can you remember the old you? Most importantly, can you see the new you for what you really are?

With childbirth, change becomes you.

They should tell you this.

Not just that your world will change, but also that you’ll love the changes for the most part.

Not just that your account balance will change, but also that you’ll feel like every money you spend on your child is well worth the effort.

Not just that your sleep debt will pile up, but also that you’ll feel so much joy…



Adelina Vasile

Mother, educator, journalist, copywriter. I write about the things I need to learn myself.