Contradictions Mothers Struggle With

When what seems to be a wrong feeling is probably right.

Adelina Vasile


Photo by 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

Motherhood means so many things to many of us. Often, those things are blatant contradictions.

It’s a journey, and it’s about ups and downs.

So many of your turns will feel wrong, but maybe they are right?

It’s a life filled with dreams when you can barely take a nap.

Your existence feels exhaustive, but it’s full-choke of love.

The hardest, most fulfilling, and effortless love.

It’s motherhood, and you’ve never been warned.

Are you excited that you’re never alone and have a happy chubby baby holding you so strong?

Wait until you start feeling oddly lonely soon after that.

Can you feel the unexpected joy your children bring into your life?

Wait until you have one of those nights, or days, where you hit rock bottom.

Are you proud to notice how your children are shaping you into a much better version of yourself?

Wait, what’s that thought that you don’t like what you see in the mirror? Oh, I know, you just hope that one day you’ll have more time to work on your body image…

Do you have a moment you’d love to keep forever?

How about those days that feel like they’ll never come to an end, the moment you wish away, and the overwhelming guilt that comes from wishing away what will fly away… anyway?

Are you feeling more confident since you’ve become a mother and found a rhythm in your new life?

Then how come you often feel like you no longer know who you are and can’t recognize yourself?

So, your bond with your partner is so much stronger.

Then again, there are days when you feel so distant from your better half.

You thought you knew love, but you only started to love fiercely when you had your first child?

There comes the fierce lover feeling incredibly vulnerable.

There are days when you laugh so much that your belly hurts.



Adelina Vasile

Mother, educator, journalist, copywriter. I write about the things I need to learn myself.