I wonder how multiplying love and worry while dividing every other resource would help a first-born…
I’m the little sis. The sibling. The friend for life as they call me. I’m also a woman in her thirties. A first-time parent. One intending to stay that way. My sister is another woman in her thirties, who was barely scratching her head looking at the two pink lines on a pregnancy test right about the time I was already holding my newborn in my arms. Between then and now, she’s become a second-time parent because… she wanted to give her first-born a… friend for life.
I love my sister to pieces. But it breaks me to pieces knowing…
Hint: what are you focusing on?
So, you’ve yelled at them again, and you’re feeling miserable again. The guilt is eating you out and only makes you want to… scream. You’re feeling helpless and don’t know what else to do. It’s either that they don’t listen to you, and yelling gives you the false hope that they will hear you better if you raise your voice. Or, it happens without you as much having the time to notice it. The trigger comes along; the yelling breaks out of your chest.
I could shout — that’s right, that’s me, guilty as charged! — right now, but you…
My past 19 articles in a row were chosen for further distribution and I don’t know why.
Yes, I’m aware that this will kill my series of 19 curated articles because Medium doesn’t promote articles about Medium. But I’m still doing it because:
1.Having 31 articles out of 47 curated didn’t do much for my earnings anyway.
and
2.I’m sick of hearing others brag about untangling something that, at the end of the day, is still a mystery for pretty much anyone — the Medium algorithm.
Consider this a rant and feel free to drop a line below if you feel the same.
Where I’m standing
I’ve been writing on Medium since January 2021. …
Allow yourself to feel pleasure — it’s pure, healthy self-love.
I have a drawer where I keep miscellaneous I rarely use — things like a satin bodysuit, a lace bra, a silky soft cami. I either received them as gifts over the years or bought them myself, in a what-the-heck-was-I-thinking moment.
Anyway, I love looking at these things. I admire elusive lingerie that is supposed to make you feel better. Yet, I somehow terribly fail at letting it make me feel better. I go ahead and tell myself — Oh, I’m not sure that suits me. …
Why we got success and happiness all wrong.
Many people seem to believe that the goal in life is happiness. This, of course, implies that happiness is something you need to work for. And like any other “work”, it requires doing a great job, scoring great success, and ultimately, reaching that great happiness.
We’re taught to work hard since we are little. We work hard to earn our parents’ praises, our teachers' good grades, our employers' appreciation, our partners’ love. Can you see how your happiness is always tied to someone else and always requires that you achieve something?
What if you take out the “come” from “become”…
The future of food belongs to robots and some hurry to invest in it.
It’s 3 AM and you’re suddenly hit by an irresistible desire to have a crispy, chewy, bubbly crust pizza slice. You take out your phone and order it from the closest pizza machine. You choose your favorite toppings, which could make for the wackiest combination, by the way, and pre-order it. You pay from the app and head to the pizza machine at the corner of the street. It takes you five minutes to get there. When you get there, your pizza has been waiting for you for two minutes. Now, you just need to sit in front of the…
Fire needs air. So does your relationship. Take these two steps.
“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.” — Esther Perel
Ever broke up with someone who wanted you back as soon as you started to show interest in someone else? If so, what makes you think that when things stall in your relationship, spending even more time together is going to grow your desire?
For whatever reason, when you think about getting closer to your loved one, taking a step back isn’t probably the first thing that crosses your mind. …
The long-term effects of fear-based discipline on your child. And the better alternative.
This child needs to know who’s in charge. Show him he can’t always get things his way. You’ve got to give him a lesson.
Does it ring any bell to you? Does it sound in any way like the things you grew up with? Or the things others told you once you’ve become a parent yourself? They all stem from the principle of fear-based discipline. For so many generations, fear has been the only mechanisms parents used to make their children obey.
After all, the need to discipline children shows up in conflicting situations. …
Confessions on the harsh realities of becoming a first-time parent.
“You do what I say, not what I do.” — signed, The Hypocrite Parent
My dear child, I’m afraid I’m one of those hypocritical parents. You might have noticed it already, but I feel the need to share this with you.
I’m the one who tells you not to have one more cookie while worrying if you can see the cookie crumbles at the corner of my lips. Crumbles from the cookies I shoved down my mouth when you caught me half-hidden in the fridge. I had to pretend I was checking if we have enough veggies for dinner. But…
The prehistoric-old-fashioned way.
They say intermittent fasting can make your body lose weight fast. They all act as if it’s the latest scientific discovery when, in fact, the strategy could really use a bit more scientific backup.
If you’re a chronic dieter desperate for actual results, or a fitness enthusiast aiming to push your body a step further, you may be really interested in this alternative to calorie-restricted diets.
Assuming you will consult your physician before making any such major changes to your diet, here’s what you should know about it.
Intermittent fasting should not put you into starvation mode
Contrary to what you may believe, this strategy doesn’t imply starving yourself…
